Friday, October 3, 2008


There is no healing without showing one another our wounds, without tenderly tending to one another's wounds.

Maybe more to follow : )

these words have been swimming through my head for a week....


Sue said...

Eek. Yeah, I think so. I remember when I felt God nudgin me to tell somebody about the sexual abuse I'd kept to myself for 15 years. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done but yeah, I think I agree.

As the wounds are inflicted in relationship, so they are healed in relationship.

Still, *sigh*. Be nice if it was a bit easier than that ;)

Manuela said...

Yeah, not easy, first of all to admit stuff to ourselves... It took me a long, long time... to really face how I'd been abused and even some of the whys. It turned my whole world upside down and shook it severely, fiercely. I didn't know who I was and I was very mad to say the least. Emotionally and even physically, I felt like I was gonna die. And there is still residue... it's SUCH a process. Whew, for sure!
There's so much shame and guilt tied to sexual abuse, no wonder most have such a hard time admitting it to themselves, let alone sharing it and grieving. But in the light of love, we can (only in the light of love). And in this light we can heal one another.(We are the hands and feet of Jesus...)
I think we each sort of sense when we are in a safe place to reveal our wounds. In relationship, it's a process. We don't bear everything at once. (I've shared too much of my wounds before to the wrong folks... but I guess we learn through trial and error. God still had my healing in mind, even if in my need I trusted too much, foolishly. He's just amazing)

There's a cool song I wanna post about healing by Death Cab for Cutie

I love that quote from The Shack... It's so powerful. It has stuck with me too. :)